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Society teaches us to place a higher emphasis on the well-being of others than on our own. And it is for this reason that we often feel torn when presented with the decision of whether to help others or ourselves.

Society teaches us to place a higher emphasis on the well-being of others than on our own. And it is for this reason that we often feel torn when presented with the decision of whether to help others or ourselves. In the end, most of the time, we choose other individuals. When we help others, we get a warm and fuzzy feeling inside because we’ve done something generous and charitable. It allows us to feel a sense of achievement and accomplishment. Giving to others helps us feel that our lives are worthwhile.

However, there are moments when we go too far. And we continue to do so even when we have nothing left to contribute to others. We lose sight of ourselves. We trade our priorities, our plans, and our goals for the priorities, plans, and ambitions of others. We fail to set boundaries and make unnecessarily large sacrifices for the sake of others. As a result, we offer those around us whatever time, money, or energy we have leftover after taking care of ourselves.

What happens when we do this? Do we actually feel fulfilled? Perhaps we’re just trying to avoid the feelings of shame that come with not contributing? Is this so-called “meaningfulness” that we sense really an excuse or a rationale for our behavior? Is it truly helping when we give more than we should to a cause? Or, conversely, are we inadvertently increasing our reliance on ourselves?


Sometimes, when presented with a choice between ourselves and others, we should make the decision to pick ourselves instead of others. The act of doing something is not self-indulgent. Since we sacrifice excessively, we are prioritizing others at the expense of ourselves.

What we enjoy doing should be prioritized. Every one of us should strive to maximize our potential and be the best version of ourselves possible. It’s also important to maintain good health in all areas of our lives. Take care of yourself first, and you will be able to be of service to those around you in a meaningful way. We will only be entirely satisfied after we have

Is it possible for us to be of greater support to people who are actually in need?

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